the missing part..

I've come across this blog when I was googling for some answers..

 

Do you think God has the perfect one picked out for you?
christianblogs.christianet.com/1226667784.htm

 

Below are the replies.

Nobody's perfect.

I hate to pooh pooh such a romantic notion, but this is also just the sort of thing people can use to justify leaving someone hanging at the altar too.

I of course have to guess why this is being asked, as you didn't say.

Does God know? Observe Peter's words to Jesus:
"Lord you know all things..." It's obvious that you shouldn't make a decision of this magnitude without God. At the same time you shouldn't wait for him to decide for you either, that's not his job and you have to decide. God in his mercy has designed our life with him that nothing should exclude us from his grace, even a bad choice. Choose wisely and be blessed.
---Pharisee on 11/14/08

I believe God CAN pick the perfect mate for you, but will we let Him?

Most Christian sisters I know tell me what kind of man they want, what age they want him to be, how much money they want him to make, etc., They don't leave any room for God to give them HIS choice.

I think we believe God picks our mate all the while we pick them. We go by our own desires and don't even realize it until we're in the marriage and it isn't working.

Another question: IF your 1,000 percent sure God picked your mate, will you still have disagreements, differences, money problems? issues?
---donna8365 on 11/17/08

 

I am not sure about this one.
I believe God influences you to pick the right one.
God gives us scripture to go by to pick the right one.
And once you have chosen, I believe God blesses your union.

I guess you can say it is more complicated than the question actually puts it.

I for one, did not have this knowledge, so I chose wrong.

Gods word says "My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge".
Seek God before seeking a mate. God will give you wisdom to choose the right one.
---miche3754 on 11/17/08

 

All these three replies are exactly my answers,

But I don't know how contradictory they are until I saw them in prints.

So what is it really like then?

I badly wanted the answers and started googling again in desperation. ha.ha.

And here I found some hints.

 

God's Best - Choosing a Marriage Partner By Brian Warnes

http://www.biblecentre.org/topics/bw_choosing_a_marriage_partner.htm

 

I know it may sound dull to some of you who share my quest.

but the missing part is the prayer. At least for me, it is.

I 've been holding this matter in my hand and trying to figure out all by myself in vain.

Leaving this matter to God might not guarantee the happy end I've waited for so long,

however it is the best and wisest way of living this moment.